CURRENT CRAZE

FOREWORD

Two weeks - 14 nights just staring blankly at the monitor for almost 5 minutes. For some days, your mind cooperates but not completely. Pop! You type what your mind just told you. Then you pause. Then pop! you write again. Then you pause, and write. The same cycle goes for around 5 minutes until- snap it! What else? "Think! Think! Think!", you say to yourself. More! More! (Not the sensual one, obviously.) You have to write more! For two weeks I have been in that distressing experience and this is my nth attempt to be able to create a post.

CURRENT CRAZE

For the past days, I have been a homebody, and surprisingly, I survived. Survival must not even be the term to be used. Whoa I had a good time baby! My current addiction are movies! I have been watching a lot of not-so mainstream films and reading plots of films I have yet to watch. I'll try to review some of them decently if I think I get to use up like, 11% of my brain. The cobwebs in there need a lot of cleaning. Anyway, these films are really amazing.

One of the films I recently watched is "A Clockwork Orange" which was directed by the late Stanley Kubrick in 1971. This film was actually adapted from the novel of the same title. It's about this guy named Alex who had an attitude problem. He did a lot of odious acts like raping and hazing. He is the leader of this group of boys that the police have been hunting for desperately, until one day, he was caught. During the time when he was already imprisoned, a group of doctors, together with the government were experimenting this therapy to transform bad persons into good ones. Alex was the one chosen to be the person to be experimented on and I won't tell you what happened next. You better watch it yourselves because I just provided you the synopsis. If you're my friend I can lend you my copy of the film. I just won't tell you where I got it if you still want me alive.

I think that Stanley Kubrick is such a great director even though I watched only a couple of the films he directed. The other one I have seen was "Eyes Wide Shut" starring Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise. There's this bizarre feeling while watching his films. It's not only because he's really fond of showing tits in his films. I am really amazed and I learned more about cult status.

Nevertheless, I also have to react badly on his films, in connection to the bosom-showing. The women in two of his films are really used as objects. In "A Clockwork Orange" (which by the way was set in 2017), there's this bar where Alex and his friends usually chill. The bar's things like the chairs, tables and everything are of a naked woman's body. Yes, you can say it's art, but once you get to see this beer-filling machine, I know all the women will react since in the film, the actors need to press the vagina-formed button and the beer flows out of the breasts of that naked woman-formed machine.

In "Eyes Wide Shut", a masked ritual with women only clad in t-backs were one-by-one fucked by men. I have researched a bit of this ritual and I learned that this underground masked event was patronizing Hedonism. Hedonism is the philosophy that pleasure is the only pursuit of man in her/his whole life. Going back, yes, this is an orgy, but I think it's unfair. Hedonism was not only made for men, but also women, but anyway, blaming Stanley Kubrick for that is a mistake if that’s what the ritual is in real life. Oh, screw me! I just wrote the term "tits" for breast. It's even offensive for women.

What else? Oh, it's 1:30 am. I think I already wrote a lot. I still have to go to school early tomorrow for badminton practice. Grr! Why do I have do go through that?! I curse PE class!

OVER

I loathe him. I loathe his uncouth deed. Tell me how immense is thy wish to be able to garner such incident. Yes, I do understand him a bit, but still despise him so badly at this moment because of an easy yearning where he didn't cooperate. I think such deed is so abominable because by just a simple approval, I'll be in EUPHORIA.


















...It's so vile for him not to approve my Friendster Friend Request.

Random Stuff

What made me smile the moment after all the default programs of this computer were all loaded are the two offline messages I got from two of my gay friends. Both of them sent me Chrismas greetings and said that they'll be on vacation. What a coincidence.

Anyway, in the post I created hours ago, I forgot to tell you another objective of my blogging again. The first objective was to make blogging a habit, so that I'll be able to cope up with the major I am going to take up in Communication Arts which is Media Arts that requires a lot of writing. The second one is to be able to type efficiently and accurately with the right fingers pointed on the letters on the keyboard. Recently, I have seen movies where some characters are writers and they type well. I envied those actors.

As promised, I am going to share about what Kre of Plastic Butter just sent me: 3 of his compositions to be finished by your honor. I'm almost done with the 2 songs and I'm hoping that Kre would be satisfied. My favorite is the third one, it's the hippiest among the three. When you get to hear all the compositions Kre did, you'll easily recognize his main influence: Pedicab. The vocals which I invented on his compositions were unconsciously Pedicabish, although I try to make it Bikini Killy or Le tigrish since the main plan is to have a riot grrl slash electronica band here in Davao, although we're open to something like the Cibo Matto, Sneaker Pimps or CSS. Heck we're so ambitious. Hehe. This has been my dream and slowly, it's coming true. I hope this will really work out well.

At this very moment, I am sleepy. I have slumbered for 8 hours, but of course, sleeping in the day is far different when sleeping in the night. There was a party here at my parents' crib last night. It lasted even in the day and since we still have no house helper, I was assigned to do some of the chores, although I kinda' gave up in the end because I have been standing for almost 9 hours from preparing some of the food and being the singer for their dancing. The party was fun. We exchanged gifts. I wasn't really disappointed of what I received although I wasn't that happy either. I received a cute bag. It was so cute that it could be a bag for kids, or so my family and I thought that it was really intended for Barbie-collecting little girls. If I let you show it, you would agree since its colors are really those of the Barbie products. I asked them if it was ok if I use it and they all said yes. They told me it would fit my personality. I still don't know how to react about that.

A while ago, at 3:30, I watched Jack TV's Laffapalooza Special fot the second time because I am really currently addicted to Victor Michael Patricio Anastacio. Whew! I even memorize his whole name! While attending mass at 5pm, he was all over my mind instead of God. Oh I'm very sorry God. I better make it up to you next time. I don't really know The Victor. It's just that I really love his humor and the way he looked. No, No, he is never "pogi", but I'm really attracted to him. If you wanna see him, check the music video of Hansom out on youtube (http://youtube.com/watch?v=_cBbQ1ZYFZ4). He's the main character in the video. The band actually got him to act maybe because he's the one that was fit to the message of the song. It's really hilarious. Oh well, that's only the things I know about the Victor. I hope to be able to date him in the future. Hahar.

Blogging at past 4 am

During my last post (somewhere in the early September of 2007), I promised myself that I'm gonna make blog posting a habit. Obviously, I didn't make it.

I actually have a new crush at the moment. When having new crushes, I call it research. That is, I make use of the internet in getting to know them better. Whether that crush is a celebrity, an indie dude (the not-so-popular but considered celebs already by some), or a nobody. I had this crush on one of the members of one of the dominating fraternities in UP Mindanao and before anyone knew I was into him, I already found out his basic profile through friendster. I didn't even know his name back then! I researched about him around their fraternity's network for days. So far, he was the hardest to research. Some of my crushes are just so easy to find, since I know their names. Now, can you decipher how much of a stalker I am?

Oh, I can't believe how far this discussion of me being a stalker went. Anyway, the first time I ever considered blogging was in second year high. During that time, I was really addicted to Finch's front man Nate Barcalow. I got to check out his livejournal account, and that made me make my own blog account in a flash. I used to really write and read a lot from sixth grade to early third year high, then I ran out of time of doing it because I got busy with my band and going out with friends. I was able to post around 9 entries into my livejournal account, but as time went, my account also did. Last year (1st year college, second sem), one of my major classes required blogging for the things we learned about the Communication theories we discussed. I was happy that that was required because I expected that that would make writing my habit again, but then again, it never worked. I crammed almost half of the required blog posts since our teacher wasn't really checking the blogs on time. My classmates and I even thought he never checked it. He based our final grades from our term paper at the end of the semester. So that was my second blog account. Early this year, I decided to activate my Multiply account and I was actually pressured to really fill up the blog section. It kinda' made me write a journal again, but as usual, it still didn't revive me as a journal or diary writer.

I know that while you were reading the third paragraph, you’ve been thinking about my crushes’ connection to my blogging. After all the multiply, the blog for the major class, I have not been creating new entries until I had a crush on Ping Medina and finding his liv journal account. It made me create a live journal account again, and at the moment, I have been crushing on the Laffapalooza 2007 winner, Victor Michael Patricio Anastacio, and like Ping, I also found his live journal account. It's not like I wanna be like them, it's because the only time I remember checking my blog accounts and creating new posts is when I find and check out a live journal account, especially those of my lovers.

Oh, it's around 4:30 am. I gotta go to sleep. I'll be back tomorrow and explain why I am still awake at this hour, share stuffs about the demo Kre sent me and talk about how beautiful Victor is. Good morning.

Goodbye Lenin! Movie Review

After and while the film was showing, I was thinking of how good the storyline was. A son doing everything so that his mother won’t find out an important thing that would cause her death is very realistic because any son or daughter would probably do that to his mother so that he/she won’t lose her. The film showcased the events greatly and it reflected a lot of things in real life. The film had a lot of social issues that showed real events in history and in the society, particularly the events happened during the fall of the Berlin wall and the German Democratic Republic. The director was able to send the message of the film to the audience clearly. I was able to grasp what the film wants me to learn. The actors were able to give justice to the characters they portrayed. My favorite was the character of the mother. I loved the way she shifted from being so jolly, then being depressed, then going back to being a jolly mother, then being so clueless about everything that's going on in their country. The actor who played the son also gave justice to the character, although I think he lacked acting skills in showing affection to the mother. Another favorite character of mine was the son’s friend/co-employee. I think it was the most of him that made the film funny. Every scene of the film was exciting and a bit nerve-wracking, especially those scenes where the mother almost finds out about the truth. The whole production of the film (time, setting, costumes) suits the story line. The film's cinematography was simple, but it sure provided emphasis on some significant scenes. Like its cinematography, I think the film was edited very well. The editing still connected with the story line and setting of the film. I loved the musical scoring of the film, it really fitted every time and setting in the film, and deeply described the emotions in a particular scene. In connection with the editing, I liked the first part of the film, and those scenes that were fast forwarded. I love the film. I just can't say bad things about it. My overall rating for it is 4 out of 5.

This is a pathetic movie review. I hate the way I wrote it because I crammed it. Anyway, I still want to post it. At least I was honest about my remarks about the movie. It's really good. Go and find a copy of it.

Stealth

I love him so tenderly, I thought I must transmogrify into vapor. It would take spectroscopic analysis to locate my molecules in thin air. No possible way of holding him was close enough. Nothing could cure this bad case of gentleness except, perhaps, violence: maybe if he swung me by my legs and split my skull on a tree? Would that ease this insane wish to kiss too much his eyelids' outer corners and his temples, as if I could love up his brain??

So Long, Bananaccino...

I agree with Pao. Performing with Bananaccino at Rizal Promenade was actually one of the greatest band experiences I ever had. Being with Anno Domini (my first band) and Palmwheel, which are all-girl bands, I was always satisfied in the end of the shows since these two bands get a lot of cheers, but I didn't expect that it was more fun when you don't get any audience impact at all. It was a good thing that I didn't invite any of my friends over. hahar. This isn't a sarcasm .It is really true. It was very fun!

Anyway, that night wasn't only about the competition. It was more about boys! boys! boys! Imagine being in a male-dominated room! haha! I know you girls would be jealous if you are as boycrazy as I am. That was such a "papafull" evening. You see, the type of boys I see everyday are the ghetto boys, emo kids, rocker boys, and all, but that night, I was with the swoon-worthy dudes (according to the society's norms) I don't usually see in UP Mindanao and in Davao indie gigs. It has been awhile since I hung out with pogi boys and well, I got enchanted that night. I'm still into the guys I see in school especially the ones who are in this i-won't-tell-you fraternity even if some of my friends would refer some of them as "lago". Usually, my type (most of them). Haha. Going back, seriously, the one who most turned me on was this chinito. I didn't get his name even though he was introduced to me. I'm a bit amazed because it has been almost forever since I got a crush on someone like him (Don't count those Korean cuties from my favorite Koreanovelas). I'm looking forward to seeing him again. Will I ever get to? Well, I think I wouldn't, except if God will find a way to let us bump at each other at the mall or any other place around the city. I won't be able to see him because Bananaccino just disbanded, again. My only connection to him is our bassist, Jerrick (I miss you Jerk!), who is his best friend.

Seriously, (I hope no bandmate will get to read this) I felt sad when we disbanded, but not that sad as when AD, and if ever PW will disband. After Bananaccino has recorded Buelo, I was in rapture and thought that Bananaccino was the best band I ever had (only during that time). Even my sister said that it was way better that AD, PW, Olagi, NTTP, and the other bands I had. When Paeng first asked me to be the voice of the band, I said yes right away upon knowing that the "Paolo Segura" was in it. Well, it was really, and still a dream of mine to be bandmates with him. See, Paolo Segura is Paolo Segura. He is really one of the best guitarists around. Choy! Bow jud ko nimo! Upon learning that we got to the Globe kantabataan semis, unsurprisingly, I never cared until the "Chuck Cabrera" got into the picture. Need I say more? It is Chuck Cabrera the great. I could say a million words of idolatry and I wouldn't run out of them. Except that it would really take time. Hahar. Paeng told me na "Uhaw sa banda si Chuck" during that time, so I got excited again because I thought that we wouldn't disband anymore. During our practices at Mix, Chuck was rediscovered, and Mckina, his former band, got back together. They got nominated rin kasi for "Best Music Video" for their song "Centerfold Media" in the first ever Musika del Sur Music Awards.

Anyway, Bananaccino's over. I don't need to explain more, and I'm already sleepy eh. I just wonder, when will I ever get to have a Bananaccino again?

To Francis: Thanks for accompanying me during dinner. Thanks for the support. Love you!

P.S.: The name Bananaccino is also another reason why our disbanding kinda' hurt me. I love the band name so much, and I can't steal it if ever I form another band like that since no one could ever replace them. Paeng, Paolo, Jerrick, Ej, and Chuck: KUDOS!!!


www.myspace.com/bananaccino

From Wap

just got home from rizal prom.

first thing, we didn't win.

--congratulations to the "guess who" band.

anyway, it was fun. reallyyy fun. punong puno ng tao ang prom. puno ng mga barkada ng other bands. lol

cristin reyes is sooooooooo hooooot!! fhm cover girl was there to sing and help globe out. she gave away 2 FHM's with her as the cover girl. *drool* lol

i met this guy, maui, lead guitarist of "collision" aaand, people kept saying kamukha ko raw. so i called him "kuya" it was really funny btw, we had almost the same guitars. i had the GRG270DX with me, and he had his GRG270. lol

anyway,

baby's breath - they had an acoustic guitar player, a lead guitarist, the vocalist-bassist girl who played with the big shoes and short skirt (lol), and the popular drum sessionist craig. they were really good. i loved their music. they played the song big girls dont cry. it was real sweet btw. :)

guess who - 2 guitarists, 1 bassist, 1 drummer, 1 bamboo. champion. bamboo impersonators. lol. all their covers were from bamboo. lol they played englishman in newyork too, which was reaally cool :)

collision - band ni "kuya" maui. lol. i loved their music. they were playing 90's alternative songs. they were amazing. kagaling gud nila. kung di kami manalo, papayag lang ako na sila ang mananalo, but eventually, boo. haha i loved their compo too. it was waaay better than "guess who"'s. it was like, uhm, i dunno, same as bamboo's genre? i dunno. basta galing talaga nila. :)

bananaccino - nepc, jerk, the amazing chuck, satriani impersonator, paeng, and me :) i really didn't know kung ok aming tugtog. my monitor was fucked up. i didn't hear anything from there. so i really wasn't able to capture how we played. nagasa lang ako sa amps and the main speakers on wat part na. oh yeah, paeng didn't bring a dist pedal tapos sira pala raw ang distortion ng amp niya, ok gud un sa soundcheck. i dont know why. tsk3 lol

i moved around so much during the gig. parang kami lang ni nepc and chuck may buhay ba. paeng didnt feel like moving dahil lagi daw niya mafeel without the distortion. lol tapos si jerk, i dunno. he's just stiff, pero he moved a bit din gud. lol

i was amazed bout myself, really. even the bassist of collision told me that i have potential. (btw, the guys from collision are old, like 24 or sumthing) he told me to keep my head up. dami pa raw mga chances and all. then maui told me that even if we didn't win, atleast we had fun.

overall, it was an amazing 2nd gig of bananaccino, and our first gig with chuck.
set:
sunday morning - no doubt
zombie - the cranberries
hiling - paramita
buelo - bananaccino

ayos man. lingaw man. lugi lang talaga kami masyado kasi no one was cheering. la kaming mga barkada dun eh. konti lang, all i had was michael, allen, bernie, james and maii2 <3

it was an amazing gig. ganda ng experience. galing. magaling.

lastly, i would like to thank our number 1 fan, francis regalado for filming the gig. love you roadie. lol

God bless us all!

Elaboration Likelihood Model

SIP - textmates, chatmates, phone pals....etc

Cuties Gallore!

GOAL: To go on gimmicks and trippings with any person not close to me from the music scene.

Before anything else, I would like to write about all the people I'm not close with in the scene where I am in. Since it's a male-dominated scene (I think we are the only the all-girl band in the scene), let me list all my prospects, how I perceive them, and my level of relationship with them. It took a long time for me to choose among them, that's why I want to show you my level of friendship with them.

target #1: Paloi - he's a great guy, we're very good friends, we text each other sometimes, but we only show the first and second layer of our onions, and they're not complete.

target #2: Migz - We were introduced many times already since the other year, we just didn't take time to really notice until last December when he complimented me after we played at this gig. I kinda' developed a crush on him before but it faded so quickly.hehehe

target #3: Jade - My latest crush! Like Migz, we were introduced many times since the other year. It was last week when that same friend who introduced us before introduced us again. During the last introduction, before I could say hi to him to indicate "nice to meet you", I told my friend that we were already introduced many times. He supported me bay saying to my friend "bitaw". Anyway, during that time, I still didn't have a crush on him.

Obviously, If I choose among these 3 prospects, Paloi would be perfect para "wala'y libog". I mean, I am comfortable with him even though we only say "hi" or perform a particular handshake upon seeing each other, but I think there would be no challenge in him, so in the end, I decided that I choose between Jade and Migz. I chose Jade in the end because he's the one I really like at the moment, he's doesn't have the "rakstarr" attitude, and he's not-so-known unlike Migz. Migz is actually sort-of a heartthrob. Oh, but during this time, I was open to changes of my prospect. I told myself that it would depend on the situation that Friday night.

That Friday and Saturday, there was a gig, and I know these 3 would be present, so I went to the Friday gig even though we we're assigned to the Saturday line-up. Actually, I know that they'll also be present during the Saturday, but as you said, it would be better that we see the person more often.

When I saw Paloi, well, there wasn't akwardness because as I said, we were comfortable in talking and saying "hi" to one another even though we're not close. When I saw Migz, I felt shy, but it was nice for him to say "hi" to me first. Ok, so I saw Jade. We just smiled to each other.hehehe I'm really shy. Well, that Friday was a bit of a waste because I wasn't able to start my assignment. My mom fetched me so early. Grrr! She told me that it would still be on the next day when we will play, and that I needed rest.

After that, I reflected about this assignment. If Jade was really the one I wanted for the target. Well, of course, he was! I have a crush on him eh, but...I knew I can't do it so I decided that I would settle on Paloi.

During Night 2 (Saturday), I informed Paloi right away about this assignment. Well, at first, he didn't understand, but good thing he cooperated in the end. I wasn't able to apply all my strategies to Paloi because we are already good friends although we're not that close. Anyway, my goal is just to go on gimmicks or any trippings with him. I even told him that he wasn't really the one who I really wanted to approach.hehehe

Anyway, the assignment worked with Paloi. In the 2nd week of February, an indie event organizer asked 10 bands from Davao including my band, Paloi's and even Jade's and Migz's to play in Panabo. Paloi and I, together with our bandmates agreed that we would go there together. So, mission accomplished!- but I'm still hoping I can apply the strategies I wrote through Jade. Maybe do it on the Panabo gig! Hehehe If I have time, I'll share it with you-if ever I do it.Ü

My Friendship with Palmwheel (Social Penetration Theory)

May 2, 2006 - It was the first time when I got to meet the Glueclay (an all-girl band) peeps. We already know each other before, but we were not friends. We were introduced by a close friend of mine. We had a lot of things in common- and we shared a lot of stuffs we know about the band scene. We exchanged numbers, and texted each other after the gig. Two weeks after, they asked me to be in a band- a different band because Glueclay just disbanded..of course I said yes!

In May 13, 2006, Palmwheel was formed. Our first practice together was great. It's just that we were still a bit shy and uncomfortable with each other. Yet, we learned more about each other. I found out that Darling (guitarist) already have 2 children with the same father. Then, we found out where we go to school, where we live, etc.

We kept on practicing and had some bonding, and slowly, we got to know each other more, but still there were exemptions. At some point, Angel and I were a bit well not really hesitatnt to be with the other 3 very much because they share the same set of barkada, and sometimes, we can't relate to some of the things they share. Well, of course we just let it be because they have been friends since high school and we just like met them for months and we don't really get to be with them often.

Then, Angel had to leave the group and we were left as a foursome. Everything else was the same, I got to know them more, but if not because of our first Panabo gig, I won't really get to be very close to them. I truly enjoyed the weekend where I only spent with them. I really found out more about them and some of their friends. After that weekend, I became a member of their barkada.

As days have past and we are still very active as a band, we see each other not only for practices, gigs, or meetings, but also just for pure bond and pleasure. I got to share to them the deeper layer of my onion, and now, we can never be more than close because we already are...Ü

A Polygraph Test on Interpersonal Deception Theory

1. Have you ever been in a situation where you had to say something not completely true “to avoid hurting or offending another person, to emphasize their best qualities, to avoid getting into a conflict, or to speed up or slow down a relationship”? How did that experience affect your relationship with the other person?

Yes, I have been in that situation. I am not a very frank person, so at times, I really get stuck in a situation like that and i always have no choice, but it actually depends on the person. If I am very close to that person that I have been with him/her for years, I may be very frank with him/her, but at times, it also depends on the situation. What if he's really depressed and saying something true may lower down his/her self-esteem? It will take time for me to tell him/her the truth if he/she is close to me, well if there is really a need to tell him/her when time comes. If I am very close to that person, I think my relationship with him/her will not really change. In my experience before, I wasn't really able to tell my friend the truth, but our relationship wasn't affected because we didn't really deal on a serious situation. If ever I get into a serious situation and I don't tell the truth, I think my relationship with that someone won't change, it will just my perception or my conscience that will bother me, and if ever I tell him/her after awhile, I know that he/she will get disappointed because I kinda' lied to him/her. I think our relationship won't be the same again, except if I promise that I'll be very honest to him/her next time and if i will really do what i promised.

2. Do you find yourself making such statements in all your interpersonal relationships or only in some? Which interpersonal relationship do you find yourself making such statements often? What kind of statements: falsifications, concealments, or equivocations? And what kind of message characteristics: uncertainty and vagueness; nonimmediacy, reticence, and withdrawal; disassociation; and image- and relationship-protecting behavior?

Well, I make equivocations, and reticence at times when I am stuck in a situation that leaves me with no choice and in a situation where I think will harm me if I tell the truth or If I really tell something. Of course, there is nothing wrong in telling the truth. It is even wrong when you lie, but there are really instances in out lives where we have no choice but not to be frank. There are even times when I just don’t comment on something so that I won’t be in harm or give harm to the person.

3. Have you ever been on the receiving end of what you think were deceptive messages? Were you able to spot these messages? How accurate were you in spotting these messages? What tipped you off that the other person was not being truthful? How did that affect your relationship with that person, both in the short- and long-term?

I remember one instance where a friend of mine wasn’t truthful. I think we were talking about our love lives, well about me not having a “love life” at all. I kinda’ asked her why I still didn’t have someone. At first, she was a bit frank, but I but-in in her statement, and I think that made her not tell the truth. Well, I just accepted what she said and we continued with our conversation. While still conversing with her, I knew that that think she said was not true, but because I know that I made her say something that won’t disappoint me and I know what’s really inside of her, I just didn’t mind that she didn’t tell the truth. Our relationship didn’t change.

4. In your experience, either as the sender and/or receiver of interpersonal deceptive messages, would you agree with all or only some of the 18 propositions of David Buller and Judee Burgoon? Explain.

I agree with only some of the 18 proportions of David Buller and Judee Burgoon. The other proportions they mentioned were biased and can’t be applied in my personal experiences in not telling the truth.

5. Would you agree that, as the sender and/or the receiver of interpersonal deceptive messages, you were an active participant (for receivers, you were not just a passive listener even if you did not harbor any suspicions) in the deception? Why or why not?

Yes, I am an active participant in the deception as the sender, and as the receiver especially in the experience I shared in #3. I made my friend not tell me the truth. Of course, it is still my friend’s responsibility to choose whether to tell the truth or not, but she was still stuck in a hard situation.

6. Would you also agree that, as the sender and/or the receiver of interpersonal deceptive messages, you engaged in strategic deception: doing complex mental tasks while simultaneously monitoring nonverbal leakage? Why or why not?

Yes, I agree in that. There’s a big possibility that as a receiver, I may think that I am only deceived, and if I am the sender, I may think of more ways on hiding the truth that can harm my receiver or me.

7. Would you agree that deception is usually successful because of our ”truth bias,” our uncertainty about nonverbal leakage, and the sender’s constant adjustment to our suspicions? Why or why not?

As a receiver, we don’t really judge the sender right away especially if we are close to him/her. We don’t show that sender that we are suspicious. I remember one instance where I know I am already deceived by someone but because that person is my friend and I don’t want our relationship to change, I make her believe that I believe and that she was successful in her deception, but without her knowing, her deception is not really successful. In that case, I was already the one who was deceiving her. I made her believe that I believed her.

8. Would you subscribe to Buller and Burgoon’s complicated theory or to Steven McCormack’s simple model of deception? Why?

I think I would subscribe to Steven McCormack’s simple model of deception because I can very well relate to it. At times, I deceive people, especially friends under a certain circumstance and the deception doesn’t make a difference whether I mean it or not.

9. Do you also agree with Bella DePaulo’s critique that Buller and Burgoon’s theory lacks an “explanatory glue”? Why? If no, what “explanatory glue” would you provide?

I agree with Bella DePaulo’s critique because although David Buller and Judee
Burgoon created a good theory, the theory they made still lack explanation. They lack suggestions about deceiving.

10. In our study of deception, why do you think are communication scholars relatively silent about its moral implications?

I think our communication scholars are silent about deception’s moral implications because not all people can be successful in applying their suggestions. I think we don’t really need those implications on deception because we are truly the ones who are responsible with our actions and we are the one involved in that situation. We can only help ourselves in our deception. We have our own technique in deceiving.

11. Which ethical stand would you require of others: Kant’s, Augustine’s, or Bok’s? How about for yourself?

I would require others and myself Sissela Bok’s stand. I also agree with St. Augustine and Immanuel Kant that lying is really bad, but in my opinion, there are a lot of exemptions to that. In the previous questions, I shared my experiences as a sender of deception and the reasons why I didn’t tell the truth. My reasons were all about circumstances and situations where I have to choice but not to tell the truth so that I won’t bring harm to the person.

Really?! I am like that?! (Expectancy Violations Theory)

My barkada and I love to go to malls during weekends or even after our classes. We eat, and bond. Actually, we eat first, and after that, we stay on that restaurant or fastfood for several hours and just talk and talk and talk about different things. We call this "session". In our session, we share secrets, we share experiences, and most of all, we backbite people. We have been going out for awhile, and there was this one time that we ran out of things to say and people to backbite because we already said all the things we need to say, so we decided to just maybe backbite each other. Sort of a forum thing. There were four of us, and we opened up the things that irritate us or the things we don't like about each other, but in the end, we'll get a chance to defend ourselves. Actually, most of the things went out well. We didn't get into a fight, and we understood one another, but at some point, there were some things that we didn't agree of. We never expected that we were like that and we kept defending ourselves. One of my friends told this other friend that he didn't know how to listen and he always went on his way. So that friend who was told that he was like that reacted and told me that he wasn't like that. He listens to the things his friends say; it's just that he doesn't agree with them. Well, it was a good thing that we didn't start a fight or another backbiting session against each other, but the day after that forum, my friend (who was told that he didn't know how to listen) , asked me again if he really didn't know how to listen. Honestly, I agree with him. He listens, but there are times that it shows that he doesn't because his face will change and he reacts negatively, or it really depends on the situation. He listens naman to what I share like my crushes or my several complaints about things. For him to slow down and forget about it, I told him that he truly listens and I know that because we get to be with each other more often that our friend who told him he doesn't know how to listen. My friend never expected that our other friend would say that. Again, it was a good thing that we didn't get into a fight after that forum. It wasn't only him who didn't expect those things, but also the rest of us. We never expected that we were like that, and everything. Well, that forum was a good routine. Maybe we'll do it every month.....Ü

IGAT EXCLUSIVE!!! (CMM)

My ultimate barkada - we call ourselves IGAT.. hmm.. hehe... This barkada was formed in first year high school and revolved. We added more friends during our next 3 years in high school and until now, we are still very active even though we alreay attend different universities and colleges.


We have this particular language that we know what is going on with the life of one of our barkadas. Well, before that, I wanna share that in our barkada, we have several personalities. There are 2 obits (lesbian), 2 straight boys, 6 straight girls, and 2 not-so-straight boys (in denial stage pa siguro) hahaha.... 4 of our barkada are more particular with their love lives, and even their sex lives, and we all know that. Everytime we bond, it is almost the topic..hehe Anyway, we know that something is going on with a barkada even though he/she didn't say it yet. During our 4+ years of bond, we can really tell, and we also have several expressions that we only do. These expressions are really just common like the looks of our eyes, and the raising of our eyebrows, but there is really something that we only understand.


There are times when people outside our barkada gets left out because he/she doesn't understand what we mean. That was resolved because a girlfriend of one of our barkadas was a bit disappointed because she couldn't understand what our actions mean. She thought we were backbiting her, so our barkada asked us to show her that she was ok as a girlfriend of our barkada for us by also sharing to her what those eyes mean, or we don't want to share it to her, we would just not talk about those secrets by ourselves. In having such exclusive languages, there should be responsibilty among the members who share such languages. We should not use those languages if there's someone outside our barkada. We did very good at it. The girlfriend eventually understood our barkada as we open up more of ourselves to her. She became a part of our barkada.Ü

Lain-Lain akong Gidapit (Assigned blog describing one's self)

I have many friends. You may think that I am the only one who has a lot of friends, but if you only see them all, you would really wonder. I have uncountable friends. Well I have a big barkada when I was in high school, and some of them were my friends since grade school, then I have my friends in YFC, then my kababatas, then my friends in the different band scenes, and of course, my UP friends. Obviously, one of the reasons why I have all these friends is that I am approachable. In our CLE subject in high school, we always have this activity where we pass around this paper with our name in it and let each of our classmates write anything about us. Most of them always write: friendly or approachable.

Being friendly and approachable makes me be close to any new friend I meet. I love being with my friends. I like going out with them, and talking with them on the phone or texting with them for several hours. They love being with me. At the end of the day, they never fail to thank me for spending the day with them.

There are times when my being a good listener is taken advantage. Yes, I enjoy all the things they share to me like their feelings for their boyfriends etc., but sometimes I get bored because they tell me the same things all over again and they tend to overreact over the things. One thing that bugs me most is that they don't give me the chance to talk. It's always them who get to share. That is very unfair on my part, so I talk to them about it and it's a good thing that they listen to me and they learn, although at times slip and do the same things all over again.

This is where I got the notion that I am approachable and a good listener. I think my friends are not wrong. My friends love me for that and that makes me feel really good.

Emphasis on Acting due to Miscommunication

Just the other day, I came home late from my service in this particular religious organization. I was very tired and exhausted. While I was on my way home, I rode the jeepney and there were two things that added to my exhaust: the very full jeepney (I can barely sit) and the very bad air (the tambucho of the vehicles, pardon me, I forgot the English word for that). Upon reaching home, it took a long time for our househelper to open the gate (I know she was watching TV again and just waited for the commercial before she'll open the gate and let me in). I became more irritated by the way she welcomed me. She always judges me without even knowing where I was from. She talked to me sarcastically. She wouldn't believe that I came home late from service. What the hell did I care as long as my parents know that I just didn't go out and had fun with my friends but I served, but it was just so irritating. Of course I can't fight her. My parents told me to treat our househelpers very well even if they really get to our nerves, so I didn't bother talking to her and explaining to her, but I got more moody. When I reached our sala, my little brother complained to me about the computer's mouse. For him, I was the one responsible for it. That was when I really burst with madness with all my exhaustment and irritation. Why do they always assume that it is my fault when something in the computer goes wrong?!?! It doesn't mean that when I am the one using it more often in our family, it's my fault if the mouse isn't working. So I shouted at my little brother, "Ambot nimo oi!!! Perme nalang ako!!! Dili baya ako ang last na naggamit ana!! GRRRRRR!!!!", then I went immediately to my room to change. Then, I went to my parent's room to let them know that I already arrived. My little brother entered the room, complained about the mouse, and stared at me as if he's going to kill me. My father was busy doing something so he didn't notice my brother. Then our houselper called us that dinner was already served. I was the one who went to the dining room first. When my little brother entered the dining room, he was crying and my father was very angry. It was maybe because my father didn't take notice of my brother's problem about the mouse. My mother interrupted, "I think he's mad at his ate. I saw him stare at her badly a while ago. I think he thinks that It's his ate's fault why the mouse isn't working well." Good thing I was already in a good mood during that time. I told my mom that I shouted at my brother. Both my parents understood that I was very tired for the past few days and considered my bad mood. Still, my brother was crying and my father lost his patience over my brother's overacting behavior. My brother cried and cried and cried. He never stopped even though we didn't mind him anymore. After we ate, he was still at the dining table overacting. He stayed there for like, 2 hours.

I did understand why my brother did that act. Well, of course it was because of me shouting at him and the fact that he never expected it (but I promise, I just got carried away by my exhaustment and the irritation that our houselper provided me). Another thing is because my sister told him "Hala ka" after I shouted at him. I think that made it worse, and the fact that while he was crying at the table, ourfather got irritated and got mad at him.

Although the reasons are pretty much obvious and maybe true, there might be more reasons why my little brother acted that way. When we asked him why, he would not answer us. Maybe he also got irritated by my sister (who was at a good laughing mood at that time) who noticed his every wail, and maybe because of my mom who told us jokes and didn't care if he was crying there because she knew that he was just overacting.

At some point, we were very insensitive to our dear little brother's feelings, but it was also his fault why my mother, father, and sister did such acts (I am not included since a big part of it was my fault). There was miscommunication there. My brother wasn't expressing himself, but he maked the matters worse, by overacting over the conflict.

Asa badaw ko gikan? (Assigned blog describing one's self)

pakyut pajud o




Who am I? hmm.. I have been struggling to answer this questions for many years now. Actually, I am always forced to answer this question for several reflection papers, etc, but for now, I am gonna answer it because I just wanna ask myself. Maybe change it to What am I? hehehe Anyway, I wanna share things about me.



Usa ko nga ulay nga gidaman sa panginabuhi dire sa kalibutan. Gituring kong anyuswal sa tanan; maglibog sila kung unsa bajud ang akong persunalidad. wala ko'y buot; lain2x akong gidapit Wala nako'y ginahimo sa kinabuhi kundi magmoony-moony og magsoundtrip. Asa badaw ko gikan?



The paragraph above is what i always put in my several accounts in friendster, myspace,etc. I think that paragraph is really simple and it really says who I am. In short, wa jud siya'y libog. I want to discuss all the sentences and lines that are in that paragraph.



Before I discuss the lines, I wanna tell you first that it is in Bisaya, because Bisaya is my first language, I was born with that language, and It's the only the language that truly makes me feel I am free.



Usa ko nga ulay nga gidaman sa panginabuhi dire sa kalibutan; Gituring kong anyuswal sa tanan maglibog sila kung unsa bajud ang akong persunalidad: I am a virgin and I'm proud to be - especially when I join youth religious activities and promote those campaigns of 100% purity among teens...I am one of the few who feel proud that they follow God's will...hahahar... I always wander away- not only figuratively, but also literally. I am a weirdo. It may not show at once, but if you really get to know me, you will really think how inconsistent I am in my ways. I am very unpredictable..go and ask my close friends in the block, there would be times that I am hyper, timid. There are times that I just stare blankly at space and ignore my friends..There are times that I suddenly burst into an aggressive song and my friends would be shocked on what's really going on my mind. I also have several friends - of different species..it's really a good things that I can go with their completely different personalities.



Wala ko'y buot - I but a child. Please pardon me for still being one.



Lain2x akong gidapit - this is related to what i said about me having several friends of different personalities which I already explained above... Another is that I am actually neutral everytime, especially when it comes to friends- in order not to hurt the other. These 2 frends of mine are in war, and they share to me bad things about it other, but they know naman that I'm still friends with the other one.it's a good thing that they don't care, well I just listen to their backbites, I don't react, and I don't say a bad thing to the other..Of course, If I will, they will think that If I'm with the other one, I am also backbiting her. Anyway, I find ways naman so that they'll be friends again...hahay



Wala nako'y ginahimo sa kinabuhi kundi magmoony-moony og magsoundtrip - wala nako'y ginahimo is an exaggeration. Of course, I study, I go to gimmicks, I talk...but I just emphasized Moony-moony og soundtrip to emphasize my weirdness..hehe and also because pagmoony-moony and pagsoundtrip are the things that I almost always do and I love doing...



Asa badaw ko gikan? - answer that question.....Ü

Communication: Self-Expression and Understanding (First assigned Blog)

I'm very fond of Baby Zach! Does it show?

What do you think are they thinking?


What are they doing?


Communication is an act or process of self-expression and interaction among individuals with a common understanding. By communicating, we can show who we truly are and express our feelings towards a person. We get to interact with people and develop our social life.

We communicate in different ways that each of us understand and use in our daily lives to express ourselves, but sometimes we get the wrong information about what is being done by a person. Communication can be threatening at times especially when there is no understanding between people. The other person may not express himself or communicate with the other but the other person thinks the other way around. I have this friend named Betty who told me that there's this guy in their class (let's call him Rob) who kept on looking at her. She got so curious and hypothesized that he liked her. Because she also found him cute, she decided to make the first move and texted Rob. Rob replied and for several nights after school, they test each other and being the girl who gets overwhelmed easily, Betty got infatuated with him. It wasn't until one night when Rob told her that he liked someone in their class until she knew the truth. Betty was ready and she was really expecting that Rob would say it was her but infortunately, it was another girl in class who was less attractive than her (which made her more disappointed). She shared her feelings and experience with our barkada and most of our reactions were "Da! Pamati man gud ka!" (We were never a serious bunch).

It was a good thing that Betty shared with us her experience and feelings about the situation. Her communication with us (her true friends) made her feel better even though some of us thought that she must really investigate her problem on why Rob was always looking at her before she concluded that Rob did like her, but there are a lot of people who experience the same thing Betty did. If I were her, i think the same hypothesis would come to mind. It just depends on how you play with it, or really solve the curiosity problem.

Still, Betty wondered about Rob's stares. Well, it is only he who knows. If she dared to ask him about it, she would be able to understand what he meant of if those stares really meant something. Betty can also tell him that she fell for him because of those stares that she thought meant something. Communication can ease the wonder and s bit of the pain that Betty is feeling.

Communication needs open-mindedness and listening in order for things to work. At times, we can misinterpret others by their languages or the way they express themselves, but if we really make sure if what we thought is true or not, then there would be no problem.