Emphasis on Acting due to Miscommunication

Just the other day, I came home late from my service in this particular religious organization. I was very tired and exhausted. While I was on my way home, I rode the jeepney and there were two things that added to my exhaust: the very full jeepney (I can barely sit) and the very bad air (the tambucho of the vehicles, pardon me, I forgot the English word for that). Upon reaching home, it took a long time for our househelper to open the gate (I know she was watching TV again and just waited for the commercial before she'll open the gate and let me in). I became more irritated by the way she welcomed me. She always judges me without even knowing where I was from. She talked to me sarcastically. She wouldn't believe that I came home late from service. What the hell did I care as long as my parents know that I just didn't go out and had fun with my friends but I served, but it was just so irritating. Of course I can't fight her. My parents told me to treat our househelpers very well even if they really get to our nerves, so I didn't bother talking to her and explaining to her, but I got more moody. When I reached our sala, my little brother complained to me about the computer's mouse. For him, I was the one responsible for it. That was when I really burst with madness with all my exhaustment and irritation. Why do they always assume that it is my fault when something in the computer goes wrong?!?! It doesn't mean that when I am the one using it more often in our family, it's my fault if the mouse isn't working. So I shouted at my little brother, "Ambot nimo oi!!! Perme nalang ako!!! Dili baya ako ang last na naggamit ana!! GRRRRRR!!!!", then I went immediately to my room to change. Then, I went to my parent's room to let them know that I already arrived. My little brother entered the room, complained about the mouse, and stared at me as if he's going to kill me. My father was busy doing something so he didn't notice my brother. Then our houselper called us that dinner was already served. I was the one who went to the dining room first. When my little brother entered the dining room, he was crying and my father was very angry. It was maybe because my father didn't take notice of my brother's problem about the mouse. My mother interrupted, "I think he's mad at his ate. I saw him stare at her badly a while ago. I think he thinks that It's his ate's fault why the mouse isn't working well." Good thing I was already in a good mood during that time. I told my mom that I shouted at my brother. Both my parents understood that I was very tired for the past few days and considered my bad mood. Still, my brother was crying and my father lost his patience over my brother's overacting behavior. My brother cried and cried and cried. He never stopped even though we didn't mind him anymore. After we ate, he was still at the dining table overacting. He stayed there for like, 2 hours.

I did understand why my brother did that act. Well, of course it was because of me shouting at him and the fact that he never expected it (but I promise, I just got carried away by my exhaustment and the irritation that our houselper provided me). Another thing is because my sister told him "Hala ka" after I shouted at him. I think that made it worse, and the fact that while he was crying at the table, ourfather got irritated and got mad at him.

Although the reasons are pretty much obvious and maybe true, there might be more reasons why my little brother acted that way. When we asked him why, he would not answer us. Maybe he also got irritated by my sister (who was at a good laughing mood at that time) who noticed his every wail, and maybe because of my mom who told us jokes and didn't care if he was crying there because she knew that he was just overacting.

At some point, we were very insensitive to our dear little brother's feelings, but it was also his fault why my mother, father, and sister did such acts (I am not included since a big part of it was my fault). There was miscommunication there. My brother wasn't expressing himself, but he maked the matters worse, by overacting over the conflict.

Asa badaw ko gikan? (Assigned blog describing one's self)

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Who am I? hmm.. I have been struggling to answer this questions for many years now. Actually, I am always forced to answer this question for several reflection papers, etc, but for now, I am gonna answer it because I just wanna ask myself. Maybe change it to What am I? hehehe Anyway, I wanna share things about me.



Usa ko nga ulay nga gidaman sa panginabuhi dire sa kalibutan. Gituring kong anyuswal sa tanan; maglibog sila kung unsa bajud ang akong persunalidad. wala ko'y buot; lain2x akong gidapit Wala nako'y ginahimo sa kinabuhi kundi magmoony-moony og magsoundtrip. Asa badaw ko gikan?



The paragraph above is what i always put in my several accounts in friendster, myspace,etc. I think that paragraph is really simple and it really says who I am. In short, wa jud siya'y libog. I want to discuss all the sentences and lines that are in that paragraph.



Before I discuss the lines, I wanna tell you first that it is in Bisaya, because Bisaya is my first language, I was born with that language, and It's the only the language that truly makes me feel I am free.



Usa ko nga ulay nga gidaman sa panginabuhi dire sa kalibutan; Gituring kong anyuswal sa tanan maglibog sila kung unsa bajud ang akong persunalidad: I am a virgin and I'm proud to be - especially when I join youth religious activities and promote those campaigns of 100% purity among teens...I am one of the few who feel proud that they follow God's will...hahahar... I always wander away- not only figuratively, but also literally. I am a weirdo. It may not show at once, but if you really get to know me, you will really think how inconsistent I am in my ways. I am very unpredictable..go and ask my close friends in the block, there would be times that I am hyper, timid. There are times that I just stare blankly at space and ignore my friends..There are times that I suddenly burst into an aggressive song and my friends would be shocked on what's really going on my mind. I also have several friends - of different species..it's really a good things that I can go with their completely different personalities.



Wala ko'y buot - I but a child. Please pardon me for still being one.



Lain2x akong gidapit - this is related to what i said about me having several friends of different personalities which I already explained above... Another is that I am actually neutral everytime, especially when it comes to friends- in order not to hurt the other. These 2 frends of mine are in war, and they share to me bad things about it other, but they know naman that I'm still friends with the other one.it's a good thing that they don't care, well I just listen to their backbites, I don't react, and I don't say a bad thing to the other..Of course, If I will, they will think that If I'm with the other one, I am also backbiting her. Anyway, I find ways naman so that they'll be friends again...hahay



Wala nako'y ginahimo sa kinabuhi kundi magmoony-moony og magsoundtrip - wala nako'y ginahimo is an exaggeration. Of course, I study, I go to gimmicks, I talk...but I just emphasized Moony-moony og soundtrip to emphasize my weirdness..hehe and also because pagmoony-moony and pagsoundtrip are the things that I almost always do and I love doing...



Asa badaw ko gikan? - answer that question.....Ü

Communication: Self-Expression and Understanding (First assigned Blog)

I'm very fond of Baby Zach! Does it show?

What do you think are they thinking?


What are they doing?


Communication is an act or process of self-expression and interaction among individuals with a common understanding. By communicating, we can show who we truly are and express our feelings towards a person. We get to interact with people and develop our social life.

We communicate in different ways that each of us understand and use in our daily lives to express ourselves, but sometimes we get the wrong information about what is being done by a person. Communication can be threatening at times especially when there is no understanding between people. The other person may not express himself or communicate with the other but the other person thinks the other way around. I have this friend named Betty who told me that there's this guy in their class (let's call him Rob) who kept on looking at her. She got so curious and hypothesized that he liked her. Because she also found him cute, she decided to make the first move and texted Rob. Rob replied and for several nights after school, they test each other and being the girl who gets overwhelmed easily, Betty got infatuated with him. It wasn't until one night when Rob told her that he liked someone in their class until she knew the truth. Betty was ready and she was really expecting that Rob would say it was her but infortunately, it was another girl in class who was less attractive than her (which made her more disappointed). She shared her feelings and experience with our barkada and most of our reactions were "Da! Pamati man gud ka!" (We were never a serious bunch).

It was a good thing that Betty shared with us her experience and feelings about the situation. Her communication with us (her true friends) made her feel better even though some of us thought that she must really investigate her problem on why Rob was always looking at her before she concluded that Rob did like her, but there are a lot of people who experience the same thing Betty did. If I were her, i think the same hypothesis would come to mind. It just depends on how you play with it, or really solve the curiosity problem.

Still, Betty wondered about Rob's stares. Well, it is only he who knows. If she dared to ask him about it, she would be able to understand what he meant of if those stares really meant something. Betty can also tell him that she fell for him because of those stares that she thought meant something. Communication can ease the wonder and s bit of the pain that Betty is feeling.

Communication needs open-mindedness and listening in order for things to work. At times, we can misinterpret others by their languages or the way they express themselves, but if we really make sure if what we thought is true or not, then there would be no problem.